Books about dating after losing a spouse

16-Feb-2020 08:17

At a young age, I concluded that widows were different from other women, set apart, other. Not long ago, I met a man with whom I instantly hit it off.A friend of a friend, he looked me up when he was traveling through New York from Europe.But it seems as though Frank's death smoothed all the rough edges off our relationship, leaving behind something ideal, untouchable, and intimidating to men.Some guys have even turned my widowhood into a weird power struggle, a game of "Whose life is harder?Other men, once they learned of my history, avoided me altogether.

I rode beside him in ambulances to emergency rooms late at night.But he also helped me understand how alien and incomprehensible my situation must seem to someone who has not lived with such a loss.I've been dating for almost two years now--some guys lasted just one date, others for months at a time.One date was texting me regularly to make plans and tell me jokes, only to downgrade his correspondence to Facebook the more he learned about my past, then fade out completely.He never conveyed the reason he bailed, but it was clear he wanted someone breezy and uncomplicated. In hindsight, I admit that wearing my wedding ring and discussing Frank may have signaled that I wasn't ready to move on.

I rode beside him in ambulances to emergency rooms late at night.But he also helped me understand how alien and incomprehensible my situation must seem to someone who has not lived with such a loss.I've been dating for almost two years now--some guys lasted just one date, others for months at a time.One date was texting me regularly to make plans and tell me jokes, only to downgrade his correspondence to Facebook the more he learned about my past, then fade out completely.He never conveyed the reason he bailed, but it was clear he wanted someone breezy and uncomplicated. In hindsight, I admit that wearing my wedding ring and discussing Frank may have signaled that I wasn't ready to move on.ONE MARCH AFTERNOON IN 2010, I logged on to Facebook and glanced at my relationship status.