My crush is dating an ugly girl

09-Jan-2021 11:55

Here were smart, funny, good-looking guys surrounded by single women who were to be asked out - and not a whole lot was happening. Smart people created nearly everything that I value - Beethoven's late string quartets, my HP laser printer, Feynman's lectures, suffer like I did? Set up the whole date: where, when, how, and in what outfit.

I've every sympathy with a bloke who thinks he's not getting the girls because of his less than dazzling looks. But Christ, isn't this just a little bit defeatist? I bumped into a very good friend at a wedding the other day. I think she moved straight to "you're a humourless idiot.

So don't come and tell me that women don't make sense to you. So you're increasing the likelihood of getting - nothing. Quit thinking girls should like you because you're smart.

" In neurological terms, you want to give a positive reinforcer - like a present - the desirable behavior, you reinforce nothing.

He happily admits that he's just as picky as the next (better-looking) guy and has a thing for gorgeous olive skinned Italian (very non-Ug) women. Okay, so I still lust after the likes of Johnny Depp. But when it comes to scouting for real-life boyfriend material, I just don't put too much emphasis on the looks department.

If anything I find pretty boys with model good looks a bit of a turn-off.

I've every sympathy with a bloke who thinks he's not getting the girls because of his less than dazzling looks. But Christ, isn't this just a little bit defeatist? I bumped into a very good friend at a wedding the other day. I think she moved straight to "you're a humourless idiot.

So don't come and tell me that women don't make sense to you. So you're increasing the likelihood of getting - nothing. Quit thinking girls should like you because you're smart.

" In neurological terms, you want to give a positive reinforcer - like a present - the desirable behavior, you reinforce nothing.

He happily admits that he's just as picky as the next (better-looking) guy and has a thing for gorgeous olive skinned Italian (very non-Ug) women. Okay, so I still lust after the likes of Johnny Depp. But when it comes to scouting for real-life boyfriend material, I just don't put too much emphasis on the looks department.

If anything I find pretty boys with model good looks a bit of a turn-off.

There has to be some kind of physical attraction there (unless they pounce at 2am while I was wearing my rosé-tinted glasses).